Getting engaged to be married can be an intoxicating and stimulating experience for a bride. Just think of all the excitement around planning a wedding – selecting the perfect dress, choosing a wedding venue, decorating, re-uniting with old friends and family. Yet somewhere in the process of all the joy and excitement, a bride can feel overwhelmed by the stress of the upcoming wedding. Questions arise related to logistics, relationships and money – how many people will come to the wedding? How do we separate feuding relatives? How do we pay for everything?
So in the midst of the chaos don’t let the wedding planning stress overcome you. Here are some tips for reducing wedding stress and making your wedding experience more rewarding and relaxing.
1. Don’t be a Bridezilla. Allow yourself time to relax and rejuvenate.
2. Your friends and family want to influence your wedding. Let them know that it’s your day.
3. A wedding precipitates strong feelings and some doubts. Remember that being married is a journey and a process, not a final destination.
People that might stress you out (that you may want to limit contact with):
– family members/divorced
Some basic things to remember from Wednet:
- Remember that no wedding is perfect.
- Remember that you can’t please everybody.
- Be willing to compromise.
- Delegate responsibility where possible.
- Remain calm and rational when faced with stress.
- Communicate effectively (without anger).
- People are unpredictable
- You are not to blame for problems that your guests have.
- Be honest with yourself and your guests.
- You don’t need to be a mediator between guests.
- There are some things that you cannot control.
- A wedding takes a long time to plan.
- A variety of emotions are normal during the planning process.
- Take time out for yourself.
- Take time out for your relationship.
– Source: http://www.wednet.com
Specific things known for their relaxation properties:
Lavender has long been known for it’s ability to promote mind and body relaxation through its powerfully calming aroma. When combined with bath salts relaxation effects are amplified through vapors and direct skin contact.
Getting enough rest can improve your body’s ability to fight off sickness and help you feel better and more relaxed. If you are not getting enough sleep, try a natural herb to aid in sleeping, such as valerian root or melatonin.
Cocktails. Having a bad day where nothing seems to go right? End the day early with a happy hour with your friends. A cocktail or two will help you forget about the stress of the day and your friends can be there to support you when you need it most. Just remember that if you drink, do it in moderation and be safe.
Not relaxed yet? Register to win a “Zen Bride” package (includes a book on reducing stress and lavender products like bath salts/candle, etc.)
Email us at: AustinAmericana@Gmail.com – include your name and upcoming wedding date.
We’ll give away 3 of the Zen Wedding packages starting June 1st, 2011.
This morning I awoke from another wedding nightmare. Perhaps brides have nightmares about dress malfunctions and grooms dream that they are losing their freedom, but wedding photographers have dreams of equipment malfunction – which is the worst thing that can happen to a photographer.
I’ll set up the dream: It’s a balmy summer afternoon and I photograph a vivacious blonde bride and her robust, biker groom at a church that doesn’t exist. Everything goes well. Then we all climb into automobiles and travel to the reception location. When we arrive it’s much darker (perhaps evening or night) and time passes quickly. Everyone is seated around a big table (including myself, which I would never do in real life) and we’re imbibing and eating and having a great time. As the meal is finished the groom stands and announces that he and his bride will soon make their grand exit and everyone prepares. I panic. I realize that during all the fun and excitement I’ve forgotten that I’m the official photographer for the event and my batteries are not charged. I quickly load my flash with 4 AA batteries, but to no avail – They’re dead. The room is dimly lit and the shutter won’t move in such a dark environment, at least not without a tripod -which is akin to bringing a knife to a gunfight!
As the menacing groom escorts his bride out he gives me a menacing look, as if to say, “I know your batteries are dead because your flash is not popping”!
….and then I am awake and wondering why I’m having a nightmare about something that has never happened and will never happen. But how can I be sure this bad situation will never come to pass? Preparation – it’s the only way to fly.
The day before a big event, like a wedding, I charge up dozens of batteries for my cameras, flashes and other equipment. I follow a check list for everything I do, kind of like a pilot or an astronaut would follow a mission checklist when they prepare to fly an aircraft. 1. Do this. Check. 2. Do that. Check… You get the idea.
Having photographed dozens of weddings, I’ve never had a major incident like what happened in my nightmare. Some people might say that I’ve been lucky. When I was in high school one of my athletic coaches, a gruff, stocky old man who played NFL Football before the use of helmets (that’s my theory anyway) used to say that luck was when “preparation meets opportunity.” I like to think that he was 100% correct. That’s why I use a checklist to prepare for weddings. Besides, I can’t afford to just be lucky. I have to take every step possible to make sure that I am prepared to capture every great moment from a wedding, quickly and seamlessly.